SNOOPING 101: 3 REASONS WHY YOU RESORT TO SNOOPING

We’ve all been there… it’s late at night, your significant other is giggling into their phone, texting aimlessly and you think to yourself, “Who the heck are they texting?”. Oh, you’ve never thought that? You’re probably in a sane, stable relationship. For those of you who might not be… Here are the three reasons why you resort to snooping. 

• You’re insecure: You hate to admit it but you’re not confident in who you are, or your relationship. The crazy snooper who demands access to their significant other’s phone at all times is usually insecure from a previous relationship. Sometimes there legitimately is nothing to find but they won’t stop until they’ve self-sabotaged the relationship. In this case, you need to chill out and work on you. You probably shouldn’t be in a relationship until you can deal with the cheating or insecurity from the past. This is a YOU issue. Stop putting that on your partner who hasn’t done you wrong.

 

• Your partner is drifting: There’s lull’s in every relationship and sometimes you start to think, is there someone else? Maybe you haven’t had a scarred past like the insecure snoopers, but you definitely feel a drift from your significant other and you have a burning desire to get to the bottom of it, without your partner knowing. A harmless scroll through their phone when they're in the shower isn’t bad, right? Bring this issue up to your partner! Maybe they feel the same exact way. Have a pow wow and talk it out. You probably aren’t getting the proper amount of attention that you need in order to have a healthy relationship. If you bring it up to them without resorting to snooping, thing’s will definitely workout better for you than when they catch you on their Instagram at 3 am. 

 

• Your Gut: There’s this ache in your stomach whenever your partner picks up their phone. You just know, you know without a shred of evidence that something isn’t right. All you need is the hard core proof to nail them! Your gut is usually *98% accurate on most things that are wrong in any situation. Maybe you need clarity to stop feeling crazy about your partner and what they’re doing behind your back. Everyone and I mean everyone I know that has snooped after having a gut feeling something was wrong, always found what they were looking for. It’s hard to leave a relationship without the evidence. I get it. I’ve been there, believe me. Hear me out, if your gut is telling you something’s wrong, RUN. Don’t collect evidence. Don’t break into their phone late at night. Ignorance is bliss. You don’t need to know that they cheated on you. The evidence will break you. Then again, maybe you need to be broken to stop coming back to your high school sweetheart. 

*Statistic not supported with scientific evidence. Solely based off that tall redheads personal experience. 
                         The Stats: based off a survey conducted on over 1,500 people 

• 50% of men know their partner’s pass-code vs. 33% of women 
• 50% of the people who snooped found something incriminating on their partners phone. 
• 25% of men would break up with their significant other for snooping vs. 16% of women would breakup with their significant other for snooping.

TTR True Life Story: This was probably my lowest point in my past relationship. I felt the gut feeling, my ex would come home late from work with tears in his eyes and when I’d ask him what was wrong he’d scream at me. I just knew I needed the proof. It resulted in one of the most insecure acts from yours truly.  Late at night, when we both were asleep I slowly got out of bed and army crawled… Yes, army crawled across our bedroom floor to his iPhone. Which in case you don’t know… I have no clue how to use. I grab his phone… Victory! I Army crawl to the bathroom. I spent  what felt like 15 seconds on his phone (We knew each other's passwords) when I hear the most fatal two words in any snoopers search coming from the other room… “HEY SIRI”. I’m screwed! I’m freaking caught iPhone handed. Lucky for me… I’m extremely quick on my feet and tell my partner, “I’m so so sorry” (We got into this huge fight before bed and I knew just what to say) “I wrote you the most hateful text that I couldn’t bare you waking up to! I had to delete it before you saw!” Half asleep, he replied, “Oh that’s fine.” and drifted back to sleep. DO NOT resort to army crawling to your partners phone late at night! Break up… The gut feeling is an animal instinct. There’s something wrong. Stop ignoring it and just break up without the evidence. No snooping required.

-That Tall Redhead